Are negative interactions as important as positive?
Having set the challenge to increase my followers by 1000. I have become obsessed with checking my stats.
Today I noticed that in two hours, I had lost one follower. Just one follower, but to me this one follower became the most important person to my blog.
Before you all worry about the level of my sanity I went from 941 to 940 it was very noticeable.
If only I could ask that 1 follower why they had unfollowed? What post made them unfollow?
I hadn’t published any posts that day so the reason wasn’t obvious. If I had published a post on the skills of President Trump in women’s rights, I would have known why.
This obsession with a lost follower is also only limited to my writing. On social media, my stats go up and down constantly.
I have noticed on Instagram people following me and then unfollowing straight away. I wrote a rant about it and gained 50 followers, oh the irony.
However, with my writing losing a follow meant something to me. I could have learnt so much from a conversation with this one follower.
I should say now that my followers will always be more important to me. I could not thank those that follow and comment on my posts enough. I value every one of you.
Although as writers we all shy away from negative feedback, should we change our mindset? Negative criticism is valuable to our development and will help us grow as writers.
It is also important to appreciate that not everyone will like your writing. Think of the best selling authors at the moment. James Patterson is extremely popular. I don’t like his writing.
When you find your writers voice, not everyone will like it. That’s fine as long as more people like you, than don’t, you are winning.
I will never find that one lost follower, it remains a mystery.
It is possible, that the reasons they unfollowed me, is something I couldn’t change. I wrote a while ago about a publication that rejected my article and what I learnt. It would have been interesting to hear their reasons though.
- Make all your interactions with followers meaningful.
- Consider negative criticism as beneficial as positive.
- Grow and change as a writer, but ensure you stay true to yourself.
Thank you to everyone who follows me and comments. The obsession with one lost follower has taught me one thing. How much I value the people that do follow me, every single one of you.