Why Do People Put You Down, When You Have What They Want?

Try to gain success at the expense of someone else, is never alright.

Recently the negativity has been flowing again. Once again a writer has thought it was reasonable to call out another writer.

Now I am not saying everyone on Medium is perfect, far from it and I include myself in that. But, I am bemused at the number of people who want to make it to the top, whilst trampling over others.

Remember the people you step on, on the way to the top. Are the ones that catch you on the way down.

Top Writers

We have many wonderful writers on Medium. Some have made a full-time living by writing daily articles. Do I want to be where they are? You bet I do, but I want to be there beside them, not instead of them.

Why as humans do we have to knock someone off the top, to make it in the world? Why can’t we celebrate the success of others, whilst striving to get there ourselves?

Human Interest Stories

These type of stories have come under attack recently from some male writers. My argument is, if they weren’t wanted, people wouldn’t read them.

Some writers make a very decent living, writing these stories and I applaud them. Do I read everyone from my favourite authors? Absolutely not. Reading is subjective, some posts I love, some aren’t for me.

Even though I applaud their success, do I want to write like them to cash in? No, I want to be successful on my own terms.

There are, however, plenty of people who will try and gain success writing against these women. Writers feel it is okay to gain success by belittling others. Where does that mentality come from? Are people so unsure of their own abilities, they gain success at the expense of others.

Medium Isn’t The Only Platform

This mentality isn’t only on Medium. Recently a writer I follow posted a video on LinkedIn. The comments he received weren’t about the content or the video quality, it was about him not wearing a shirt.

Until I read the comments, I didn’t even notice he was shirtless. Not because I am gay, but because I was focused on his content.

The negative comments weren’t constructive they were about his dress. People who are jealous of his success were calling him out for no reasonable reason.

Once again a classic example of people trying to gain popularity, by trampling on others.

The Writer’s I Want to Trash

I’m not going to sit and speak badly of my fellow writers. I don’t get on with them all and some let their followers down.

There is a very popular writer on Medium, who I have asked various questions off, only to be ignored.

Did I take to my group to run them down or write a post about them? No normal people don’t do that. I will never identify them. The issue is between the two of us and no one’s business.

I would rather have no viral posts than trolling another writer.

There are many writers on social media that need a reality check.

  • It is not okay to trash another writer’s work. Not for any reason especially your own gain or because you are jealous.
  • If you don’t like a post move on, there are plenty of others.
  • If you don’t agree and you are an adult, comment constructively and start a debate. Writers love an intelligent debate.
  • Celebrate others success with them. They will be the ones stood beside you when you succeed.

It’s lonely at the top, stand alongside others not instead off.

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Published by Sam H Arnold

Sam H Arnold is a writer of True Crime, Parenting and Writing Tips articles. If you have enjoyed her work you might consider donating her a coffee on Ko-Fi. Links to this and all her other work can be found on the about me page.

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