Why Do My Friends Treat Me Like Crap

My friends constantly let me down and the generosity of people I haven’t met overwhelm.

Recently I spoke about leaving my full-time job because of health reasons. I have heard it said many times that you don’t know who your friends are until you need them.

This, however, isn’t the first time when I have had to reevaluate my friendships groups. Why I have become a perpetual bad judge of character I will never know. Basically speaking I always try to see the good in people.

The letdown

I sit here quite shocked by the behaviour of people, who I have spent 4 years working with. Although I have been positive about leaving work, it was still a tough time in my life. I loved what I did, working with these young people.

I always saw my work colleague as part of my extended family. When you work in this environment you make stronger friendships. When you work with volatile young people, you need to know your work colleagues have your back. I always thought they did, after this week I am not so sure they would have.

One week from leaving my job and apart from my ex-boss and one angel, not one member of staff has contacted me to see if I am okay. The angel that did contact me, I have worked with for three weeks. It may have only been three weeks, but we have a friendship that will last. The others I am shocked by, we have been colleagues and friends for four years. It has amounted to nothing. I appreciate that some may not know what to say, but still, a simple joke would have done to check-in.

Do I allow people to treat me this way? On some unconscious level, I must do. Maybe I was the only one who saw these as genuine friendships. I have been guilty of this in the past. I will always help anyone if they need me. This is rarely reciprocated.

Feeling overwhelmed by others

My friends have treated me appallingly, but the generosity of others has left me overwhelmed. Many writers have reached out to help me in their own ways. I am not going to list them all here, it is enough to say that they know who they are. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Within the next couple of weeks, my second daughter will be born. I cannot start to explain what your contribution will do for us during this time.

I have always known that the writing community are an amazing group of people. I have helped others out in the past when I have been able to. These simple acts from people I have not met exceeded my expectations.

Whether it is a kind word, story claps or joining me on Patreon, I have interacted with people, I would now consider friends. People who I may never meet, as they live across the pond from me, have reinstalled my faith in the human race.

Why Do My Friends Treat Me Like Crap

Because in some small way I let people treat me like this. I give new people into my life too much of me. I treat others, as I want to be treated. I should not expect others to have the same values as me. There is nothing to say that people will treat you, as you treat them.

People are a product of their upbringing, experiences and personality. It would be stupid of us to expect others to behave as we do. Especially if they have not had the same foundations as us.

Will I change my ways and treat my friendships differently. No, I refuse to change my personality and actions because others take advantage of them. Why give people who don’t deserve my time the satisfaction of changing who I am.

With all relationships, ensure that you stay true to yourself, no matter what.


2 thoughts on “Why Do My Friends Treat Me Like Crap

  1. I relate to your post quite alright.. I think you have said it all, there will always be people who won’t appreciate the good in us I think what’s best is to just continue being you
    At least that is the realest thing you can be ☺

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